
Just looking at him takes your breath away. You think about him all the time. You can't wait to hear from him again. Strong feelings. But is it love? Is he the one? Most women have experienced all of the strong feelings of initial attraction to someone, only to find out later that it was not a good relationship. Those beginning feelings are so intense it can be difficult to view the relationship rationally. Your heart may get in the way of your head, and that can spell disaster and heartache. So how do you know he's the one?
AT THE END YOU'LL FIND OUT HOW TRUE THE RESULT WILL BE.IT'S REAL
First of all you need to sincerely answer the following questions[you really need to be sincere]Note:
Before you start,picture that man which you have strong feelings for who you think is the right one .Then begin.
2.Does he listen to you?
3.How does he treat you?[ Do you feel free to express your likes and dislikes to him?]
4.Do you share the same outlook on what is important in life?
5.Is he honest? Is he a person of his word?
6.Does he really respect me?
7.Does he make me happy?
8.Can he handle me at my very worst?
9.How long have you been together?
Now we shall take each of the questions for clear insight of what the really mean.
1. Do you really know him?
Take the time to really get to know him. Do you really know him? When we meet someone, we tend to get an initial impression, and these impressions can later prove to be false. We have to trust our gut instinct, but we also need to verify those feelings with facts. This only comes from really getting to know someone. Find out what makes them tick. To really know someone takes time, effort, and patience. Dating partners, ourselves included, try to put our best foot forward to make a good impression when we meet someone. We hide our bad habits, watch what we say, and try to put ourselves in the best light we can. Many relationship experts call this the "honeymoon period." It is easy to be blinded during this time, especially to others' faults.
2. Does he listen to you?
Genuine concern manifests itself in listening to the cares, concerns and issues of your woman," says Anthony Woodson, president and CEO of BlackLoveForever.com, a matchmaking service that has resulted in nearly 500 marriages. "A man who wants to be around you for the long-term will be a good listener when you need him. He will be a dependable source of guidance and support and will not turn a deaf ear simply because the problem is too big. If he doesn't know the solution, he will try his best to find one."
3. How does he treat you?[ Do you feel free to express your likes and Is he considerate of your wants and needs? Does he value your opinion? Do you feel free to express your likes and dislikes to him? Does he keep his dates with you on time? Does he do what he says he will do? "To trust a man is to believe that he is doing his best and that he wants the best for his partner," says Jel D. Lewis, relationship expert and columnist.
Do you share the same outlook on what is important in life? He can be gorgeous, and make you feel special, but if you are a person who loves to be involved in helping others, and he is a person who is more concerned about getting what he wants for himself, there will be conflict. How does he accept your differences? Two people can have very different opinions on issues, and yet show respect for the other's view. Is he concerned about being right? Will he be supportive of you with whatever you choose to do in your life?
5. Is he honest? Is he a person of his word?
Is he trustworthy? Does he follow through with commitments? Does he want the same things from his life that you do? How does he handle conflicts? Does he have a temper? Is he abrasive or abusive at times? Any sign of abusive behavior is a definite "deal breaker". No matter how nice a guy he is at times, if he's abusive at other times, he's not for you. You deserve better than that.
He should make you feel good about yourself and encourage you to grow. If you weren't in a relationship with this man, is he the kind of man you would still want to be friends with? Gandy, creator of the motivational tape, Make Space So Joy Has A Place, gives this advice: "If this person is truly a good fit for you, then his qualities should be desirable even if you are not in a relationship." Do you have the same views spiritually, financially, and socially?
6. Does he really respect me?
It’s amazing how many women forget this step. Sure he’s nice to you and he loves you, but does he really respect the things you say or the decisions you make for your life? It’s one thing if he makes fun of you for a silly thing you’ve done, but does he understand why you do what you do and help you out with some great advice? Or does he treat you like you're just a dumb girl who he keeps around because you're cute?
All great relationships are based on a mutual respect for each other. Make no mistake about the whole equality issue, guys and girls have vast differences in the way they think and what they consider important and what they hold dear, but understanding that you are both different and deciding to celebrate those differences will really help you answer, " is he the one."
7. Does he make me happy?
Happiness is something we all seek. But long term happiness is our ultimate goal. If this man is the one, he will be someone you can be happy with for a long time. Don't settle for instant gratification to the expense of your long term well-being. Author and motivational speaker Dr. Grace Cornish advises women not to get caught up looking for love in a certain package. "If you think he's the one, don't write him off just because he's not wearing a certain suit or driving a certain car," she says. "Get to know who he is and what his values are. After moving beyond the physical, you can enter the emotional and spiritual, where you'll find love and opportunity waiting and smiling back at you."
Sure he makes you happy, but why does he make you happy? You can even ask when does he make you happy? If he goes out of his way to make you happy and does it all the time, you’ve got a good man on your hands. If he only does it when he’s expecting something in return or after he’s "messed up" in some way, your guy might be a little selfish.
8. Can he handle me at my very worst?
How does he act when you are in a terrible mood? Does he do his best to cheer you up and make things right or does he call you a bitch and say something offhand about your period? Is he the one? If he sticks by you even when you are feeling moody and depressed, you’ve got yourself a winner.
Sometimes you feel that you’ve met your soulmate right away. You, my friend, are in the biggest danger. Not stalk and kill you danger, but danger that you aren’t thinking with all your senses. Love can be intoxicating (and there’s a reason why we shouldn’t drive drunk). Don’t love drunk either.
When you first start feeling love, the brain is flooded with "happy chemicals" that were entirely necessary a long time ago. Back then, you had to become devoted to your caveman so he’d stick around and help feed and protect all your dirty little cave babies. Given the fact that nowadays, you can take care of your own business, that ultimate chemical devotion is not longer needed. It still is a pretty incredible feeling though…
Really getting to know someone after those first few flushes of love drugs takes some time. In fact the first group of love drugs starts wearing off between a year and a half and three years. Then you either snap out of your chemical induced stupor and see what a jerk he is, or you calmly and quite intelligently start to understand how great your guy truly is.
Fortunately, if you're asking yourself, " Is he the one, then there’s a pretty good chance you got a good one (unless you do it with every guy). As long as you keep your eyes open and never stop listening to your intuition, you can catch and keep this perfect male specimen.
SO GO OUT THERE AND GET YOUR MAN










