What if we told you that four-fifths of what you do with women
is a waste of time...but that one-fifth of what you do gives
you almost all of your positive results?
Well, it's true... you CAN be more effective with women, with
MUCH less work.
To get the full story, keep reading.
Have you ever heard of the 80-20 rule? It says that it says
that you get 80% of your positive results from 20% -- that is,
one-fifth -- of your actions.
Put another way, it says that 20% of the things you do with
women give you 80% of your results with them.
Put yet ANOTHER way (don't worry, we have plenty of ways
left), you could say that 80% of what you do with women only
produces 20% of your positive results with them.
This is important--it means that 80% of your effort is
basically wasted, returning almost no results with women!
Here at Louis and Copeland labs, we are dedicated to finding
that 20% of actions you can take that reliably produce the
80% of your positive results. The testimonials for our
products, and the emails we get every day from men who are
having success with women, often for the first time, indicates
that we have succeeded.
While almost all men focus on the wrong actions with women --
that is, they do the 80% of work that gives them 20% of their
positive results--men in different situations tend to
focus on the different "wrong things." Let's take a look at
those wrong things, and the few 20% things they could do to
be exponentially more effective:
TYPE NUMBER 1: Men who are "Nice guys" and "Just Friends"
with women.
These men feel guilty when they approach a woman, worry
about hurting women, and always seem to end up "just friends"
with women.
The 80% of activities these men do that gets 20% (or less)
of their positive results with women:
- They worrying about upsetting women.
- They beat up on themselves for not being more romantic with
women.
- They worry a lot about appearing "safe" to women.
- They try to control interactions with women and "make
things go well."
- They try learning seduction techniques they will never have
the nerve to use, anyway.
The 20% of things they could do that would make 80% of the
difference with women:
- Get over feeling bad about showing desire and romantic
interest to women.
- Get a new definition of respect for women that allows them
to show sexual interest in women.
- Learn to let go of being controlling and have some
curiosity with women.
TYPE NUMBER 2: These are men who have opportunities to talk
to women, but don't know HOW to talk to women.
Men who have a hard time talking to women spend 80% of their
time doing the wrong things:
- They beat up on themselves because they think it will help
(it doesn't).
- They take bad advice like "just be yourself," or "just go
talk to her"
- They look for a "Opening Line" that will magically make
them succeed with women.
- They look for ways to control women, and to control their
interactions with women.
- They mistakenly think they can quickly learn how to meet
women on the street and get them in bed in 20 minutes or
less, with no work .... even when, in reality, they can't
even say "hi" to women without their voices cracking.
The 20% they could focus on that would make 80% the
difference:
- They could learn and use conversational structures that
allow for spontaneity and curiosity.
- They could learn and use simple flirting skills and
opening moves.
- They could practice with a structure, one step at at
time.
- They could celebrate their victories, one step at a time.
TYPE NUMBER 3: These are men who haven't dated in a long
time, or ever. They are men who have little contact with
women, or are coming out of a relationship, or for other
reasons have no "dating structure" in their lives.
Here's the 80% of activities these men do that gets 20% (or
less) of their positive results with women:
- Having no structure or support to help them.
- Letting problems stop them (being busy, having kids,
the city they live in, etc).
- Going at it alone.
- Trying only one thing (for instance, asking married
friends to set them up) then giving up when that doesn't
solve all their problems.
- Looking for quick fixes.
- Not celebrating their successes unless they "go all the
way" with a woman right away..
Here's the 20% they could do that would give
them 80% of their positive results:
- They could get support that is actually supportive,
helpful and consistent.
- They could get structures in place to help their dating
program keep moving forward.
- They could play the numbers game.
- They could learn realistic, quality tools for finding
niches and interacting romantically with women at those
niches.
Whatever you do, start asking yourself, "What is the 20%
I do with women that gives me 80% of my positive results?"
Concentrate on those actions, and your success rate will
improve.
Goodluck.