where both men and women know their there to see and be seen,
it just breaks me to see how obvious some guys tend to talk
loudly, bragging about themselves, and basically showing off
as much as they can just to get the women around them to take
notice of the poor guy.
Yeah sure, women will notice when you do those, but I
could just tell how turned off these women are just by the
looks on their faces.
Bragging about their high-flying corporate jobs, how much
money their making, how happening/cool they are, name
dropping, etc...
Uuugh.
Childish stuff, no?
Women will see past your 'acts', don't you know that they know
you're doing all this just to IMPRESS them?
Women can smell desperation miles away. And bragging,
talking loudly, etc are OBVIOUS signs that shows how
insecure you are as man.
So the question now lies in how do you actually display
higher value to pique her interest and take notice of you?
The easiest is to 'work the room'.
It's all a matter of using the right body language & confidence
level as you first enter the set.
Smile (to everyone, talk and be GENUINELY friendly to anyone
there, ESCALATE the ENERGY level when you're talking to
people, resonate your energy on them, SHOW the women around
how much people like you, how they love talking and enjoy
your being with them.
Shoulders back, head straight (no slouching no fidgeting)
and ALWAYS lock eye contact with someone as you're
talking to them (VERY IMPORTANT).
Speak at a volume where people can listen to what you've
got to say and speak with CONFIDENCE.
(Yes, it's soo common sense, yet guys still HARDLY ever do
it when they're in front of be@utiful women).
Imagine this: You enter into a 4-5 group set, it suddenly
becomes more 'alive', you bust on the women there, mess with
them, make them laugh, and several minutes later, leave.
The sudden void becomes obvious within the group.
You enter into another set and bring that same level of
energy there.
Do it 2-3 times, and women will notice.
Be friendly with everyone EXCEPT your 'target' and she WILL
notice (especially if she's super hot, every guy is hitting
on her but not you, and you'll stir her emotion a little
further ;-)
That's how 'naturals' work the room.
It can be complicating as you're out there dating, I agree.
Have you had a time when a woman you liked will tell their
friends how much she likes you, but when you're around, she'll
give you the chilling cold shoulder and not say a word to you...
Weeks later when you see her in the arms of another, her friends
will tell you how she lost interest because you never made
your move 'fast enough'.
You'll come across girls who'll give you sign after signs that
they're sooo into you, they'll go on dates with you, laugh at
your stupid jokes and just as you're confident that this one's
more or less 'in the bag', she'll turn around, ignore you and
go after someone else...
You'll come across women who'll be pissed mad at you for not
telling them you like them, and when you finally do, they'll
just smile, walk off and never see you EVER again.
Such is the dynamics of dating women these days.
Notice how apparent and how COMMON it is for people
(esp women) to play 'games' with the people around
them in any social setting these days. Don't fight it,
instead learn to love and EMBRACE these games as
they happen.
Guys are always writing in telling me how they HATE
playing these games with women and how they think it's
so superficial and 'fake' for them to play it but...
Remember: Women play games... one way or another to
'test' the men around them, it's not that they're bit.ches
who love toying around with men's feelings, it's just
their natural DEFENSE and SCREENING mechanism, so expect
it to happen ALL THE TIME; whether you like it or not,
it will happen.
AND THIS IS ACTUALLY GOOD NEWS FOR YOU!!
See, you can either:
1 - Give up on these women and hope to find one who'll
be straight, frank and not mess with your minds (good
luck and mail me when you've found one, k? ;-)
OR
2 - Accept that these are natural occurances in the dating
scene, man-up, learn to TAKE CONTROL and COME OUT
ON TOP when they actually do happen. (Women will RESPECT
you and this is ultimately the DECIDING factor in what
seperates you from every other guy out there that tries
to compete for her attention).